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A kink is simply a taste that sits outside plain vanilla sex. Having one is unremarkable: surveys on the subject keep finding that most adults have at least one, and the common ones are far tamer than their reputations.
Kink or fetish: the difference
A kink is something you enjoy. A fetish is something you need, where arousal depends on a specific object, material or body part. Feet are the clearest example of both: enjoying them is a kink, requiring them is a fetish. Our guide to what a fetish is goes into that distinction.
A list of common kinks
- Bondage. Being restrained, or doing the restraining. Cuffs, a tie, rope. Often the entry point to everything else.
- Dominance and submission. One person leads and the other follows. No equipment needed. See domination and submission.
- Spanking and impact. Hands first, implements later. The receiver sets how hard.
- Role play. Two characters and a premise. Strangers at a hotel bar is the most requested. We have a guide to role play ideas.
- Foot worship. Attention paid to feet, affectionate or submissive. One of the most common of all, and covered in our foot worship guide.
- Lingerie, latex and leather. A material rather than an act. Stockings, PVC, a particular outfit she wears.
- Exhibitionism and voyeurism. Being watched, or watching. With an escort this usually means a mirror, a window with the blinds up, or a couples booking.
- Sensory play. Blindfolds, ice, wax, feathers. Removing one sense to sharpen the rest.
- Age gap and authority play. Teacher and student, boss and assistant. The gap is the point, not the ages.
- Edging and orgasm control. Being taken close and held there. Nothing to buy and surprisingly intense.
- Breath and throat play. A hand on the throat. Light pressure only, and the one on this list worth being most careful about.
- Cuckolding and watching. Your partner with someone else. Needs trust and a long conversation beforehand.
The ones that need more care
Anything restricting breathing, anything that leaves a mark, and anything involving a third person needs a conversation before it needs equipment. Agree a safe word, agree a hard limit, and start lighter than you think you want. Nobody has ever regretted starting too gently.
How to bring yours up
Say it when you book, not at the door. The concierge has heard it before, the sentence takes a few seconds, and we only put it to ladies who genuinely enjoy that kind of booking rather than ones who would tolerate it. An escort can also decline anything, which is what makes the yes worth having.
Good to know
Questions
A kink is something you enjoy. A fetish is something you need, where arousal depends on a specific object, material or body part.
Bondage, dominance and submission, spanking, role play and foot worship come up most. All of them are far tamer in practice than the words suggest.
Yes. Survey after survey finds that most adults have at least one, and the common ones are ordinary.
Tell the concierge when you book, in plain words. We only suggest ladies who actively enjoy it, and she can decline anything she is not comfortable with.
Anything affecting breathing, anything that could leave a mark, and anything involving a third person. Agree a safe word first and start lighter than you think you want.